Gone are the days where people used to live all happy even when they were tensed. Modern ways have taken over the past with greed and jealousy. This is my observation of some Goan families. . .
“My maternal house is located in the coastal area of Calangute. I lived with my parents and four brothers. During the day we would leave the main door wide open.We didn’t have to think about thieves breaking into our homes. At that time everything felt so perfect.” – Paulina D’souza
“The neighbours would come over for tea, or we would go to the neighbor’s to spend the evenings. We didn’t have mobile phones or televisions, just radio. At night when it was time for bed, my father would love sleeping in the veranda as the breeze was cool and soothing. We didn’t even have to lock the doors. Early in the mornings the bread man would come with his little tempo and wake us with the sound of his horn. I miss the early days.” – she added.
Nowadays, so many robberies, murders, rapes and kidnappings are taking place. We are forced to push away the past. Family disputes have come in the way of love and unity. There are several reasons why the children in the family have to move out. Some move out for further studies, some move out because they get married, some have bought their own houses and many other unexplainable reasons.
IT IS BETTER TO LIVE SEPARATELY IN ORDER TO MAINTAIN PEACE IN THE FAMILY
Each and every one has their own opinion about certain things. Some of these opinions become so harsh that they create petty fights that lead to a big dispute in the family.
Once the child in the house is married, if it’s a daughter she moves in with her husband and his family but if it’s a son then he mostly chooses to stay back with his parents or buys a new house or apartment.
Being away shows how much the other misses and cares about you. If they live in the same house then it becomes a little difficult for everyone to adjust with each other.We see the same people every day. We love them but when small issues come up daily, we tend to stop liking them as much as we did before.
Joint families have a lot of problems. Living together should actually create strong bonds. But in some families it only disturbs the peace and destroys their happiness. There are only a few who live in joint families happily.
When the time comes for every child in the family to get their share in the property, some are unhappy. These shares trigger hatred between family members. Some break relations and play the blame game. They don’t talk to each other for years. It’s sad to see all this happening.